My dad isn't around anymore. I have to get used to that. I have spent hours talking to him about every subject between heaven and earth. If I needed help with something, I would ask my dad about his opinion. And even though I was the one who was an IT professional, he would sometimes be the one with new ideas. He didn't know the details or how to make it happen, but as he said, that was my job.
My dad had severe rheumatoid arthritis and had artificial knees, elbows, and hips. He was on his second pair of artificial hips, and he had surgery on one of his hands. At some point, he didn't want any more surgeries. He was tired, and the rehabilitation was putting too much strain on his body.
My dad has been sick as far back as I can remember. He has, of course, been getting sicker and sicker, but he has never been healthy as long as I can remember. Therefore, I helped him at home when things needed to be fixed, which has been very beneficial to me today. A lot of women my age have never hung a picture on the wall when they leave home, but I have always been the practical helper at home. So I'm no stranger to putting nails in the wall, changing faucet gaskets, sanding down wood or painting it, and so on. I'm no DIY person, but I can fix minor everyday things.
There are a lot of things that my dad won't enjoy or experience, and that bothers me. My parents bought a new 4K television Friday and Tuesday he was admitted to the hospital. In addition, they had also signed up for getting an internet connection through a fiber, which was acknowledged Thursday. So my dad never really got to enjoy the new television or the possibility to stream 4K movies. Also, he will never get a ride in my new car even though he had already paid for the first trip - he had bought the parking disc for my car :-)
On the other hand, I have enjoyed his company for many years. And for a lot more years than anybody had predicted or expected. When I moved into my new house in 2008, my dad was in so much pain that he had trouble sitting in a car for the amount of time it took to drive to my house, and so I was happy that he got to see it. Back then he was offered a new treatment which made him better and in less pain, and he has been able to visit me for the last thirteen years.
My dad got to experience me starting to play music again. He has also been to several of the concerts that I've been part of together with one of the bands. But most importantly, I've played a lot of hours of music to him, which he has enjoyed very much. He was the one giving me the final push when I was considering buying a clarinet. And he was the one who got me to buy a wind synthesizer.
My dad got his first iPad in 2011, and it was a huge success. In the beginning, he didn't want a tablet because he couldn't imagine the purpose of the tablet. Quickly, he started to use the tablet to search for information about different products. Then he started buying things and using the tablet to watch instructional videos on YouTube. Because of his disease, he would not have been able to use a laptop, so the tablet gave him a lot of freedom. My dad liked the technological progress, and he was happy that it made a lot of things easier.
My dad was 72 years old when he died.